The Grand essentials of happiness are: something to do, something to love, and something to hope for.
-Allan K. Chalmers
Another year has come and gone and another fast approaching. This year, 2008, was rather trying and glorious at the same time. As with each year that passes, I enjoy moments of reflection while walking a thin line, as not to cross over into the dreadful woulda, shoulda, couldas.
As a reformed type A, goal oriented, “plan A-plan B-and back up planC” personality, I want to take some time to think about the highlights and lowlights (contrast is important – helps one clearly focus on what is wanted as opposed to what is not) of 2008. You ever notice how the lowlights can be highlights as well? The lowlights leads us to new depths in our journey in this beautiful lifetime.
- Lived fearful for much of the year
- Two businesses failed
- Severed several relationships (too toxic)
- Moved from my home of 10 years
- A clear business plan has been unveiled to me
- Nurtured friendships and shared more love
- Moved into a beautiful new home
- Moved to a new state
- Let go of stress, strain and resistance
- Adopted an attitude of gratitude
- Learned to trust my inner spirit, intuition
There were frightening moments, like when I made the decision to leave my marriage and move to another state. The decision was made in less than 10 minutes. I was faced with a decision to move from misery and into a more peaceful and blissful state (of course I didn’t know that at the time) all within a matter of minutes. You are not stuck in your circumstance. You have choices, make the ones that are best for you.
When I moved I left behind my businesses, my home and my life as I had know it for 18 years. But, the relief that I felt when I made the decision to move forward was the most peace I had ever felt in my life.
So, as you are faced with decisions this upcoming year, search for feelings of joy. Trust your intution that you are making the right decision for yourself. This is risky, because you will have to become comfortable with being selfish. It gets easier the more you do it, trust me!
The constrast from last year to this new year is: I am facing the upcoming year with a deliberate hope as opposed to living in fear last year.
New things are on the horizon for me and I am open to allowing it in, I wish this for you too! Happy New Year!